“So then you are no longer strangers and aliens, but you are fellow citizens with the saints and members of the household of God, built on the foundation of the apostles and prophets, Christ Jesus himself being the cornerstone, in whom the whole structure, being joined together, grows into a holy temple in the Lord.” Ephesians 2:19-21
Here are the questions that are floating through my brain this morning: The people that I know at church, whom I consider friends, do I really know them as if we are members of the same household? If my answer is no, (which obviously my answer IS no or else I wouldn’t bother writing about it.) then the next question becomes why?
Members of a household know each other’s bad habits and good habits. Members of a household know each other’s quirks and mannerisms. Members of a household know each other’s burdens and joys. God has called us to be members of His household and yet we have a fear that if other people really knew us they would reject us. For the most part we don’t fear that our families will reject us because we have this idea that we are stuck with our families. However, that same sense of “stuck” also translates to amazing support when faced with a crisis or challenge. That same type of stuck/support should apply to all of us who are believers, all of us who have Jesus as our Cornerstone.
If all of us have been saved by grace (Eph 2:5) and none of us had anything to do with that salvation except have faith (Eph, 2:8) then all of us have much in common. The wages of ALL sin in death (Rom 6:23) which means that whatever sin you were delivered from is no worse or no better than the sin I was delivered from because both of us were headed to death without Christ. I shouldn’t be ashamed of telling you my story and not only how I accepted this amazing gift of salvation once upon a time, but also how I accept this amazing gift of salvation every single day! I should be able to share my struggles, my challenges, the times when I want a drink, the times when I want a cigarette, the times when I laugh at something I really shouldn’t and the times when I say something about someone that really wasn’t very nice. And I should be able to share these things about my journey with you without fear that you are going to reject me…and you should be able to do the same with me. Jesus asked us to come to Him when we are weary and carrying a heavy burden and in Him we will find rest (Matt 11:28). If we are in Him, if the Holy Spirit lives in us then we should also be able to come to each other and unload our burden together.
My natural inclination is to go inward and that only leads me to sadness. I feel two things when I go inward: 1) I don’t want to burden someone with my problem or challenge and 2) because everyone has enough of their own stuff going on and I don’t want to add any weight. However, I can lift more if someone is helping me then I can on my own so why on earth wouldn’t I want to reach out for help? Why on earth wouldn’t I want you to reach out to me for help? Neither one of us may be able to solve the problem, but we can always pray together. We MUST be praying together. We MUST be sharing our burdens. We MUST be sharing our joys and praising together because members of the same household have no other choice.
When I found myself at my lowest point in life, I found myself the most alone ever. At any point during my spiral down, if I had reached out to someone for help I may have stopped how low I went but instead I kept my pain to myself. I built walls and compartments and I kept people at arms length. I put on a smiley face when necessary and said it was all ok. I don’t want to ever get to that point again and even more, I don’t want anyone who knows me to get to that point themselves. I want to be a participant in the lives of the members of the household of God…YOUR life. I want to share your journey with you, not just sit on the side. I want to live life with you and you with me. I want us to be able to pray for and praise with each other in detail not in general. And if you have a need that I can meet, I want to know about it so I can fill it. Keeping my need to myself only keeps me needing.
My prayer for myself now is, “Father, bring me to a place of transparency in my own life and involvement in the lives of those around me. Show me how to reach out and put myself out there with others so that I feel like a member of Your household with others.” I’m a little nervous over this new prayer because it feels risky but I think that it’s what God is asking of me. And honestly, I think it is what God is asking of all of us. To live together in this life because we are definitely living together in the eternal life as long as we are all believers in Jesus.
I love Jesus and all He and the Spirit are doing in my life. I love people so much and I want so much to grow together. Please email me at firstname.lastname@example.org if I can pray with you about anything. Or, if you see me somewhere, come up and share something happening in your life with me cuz if you don’t share it on your own, I’m probably going to start asking you. 🙂
Live in the love, grace, peace and mercy of God and live tightly with the other members of His household.